I was just shopping with a dear friend of mine who is getting married soon. We had some amazing talks about marriage, fashion and the "tough stuff" in life we all have to deal with. One of the many things we talked about was being insecure and how it can change how we act and even how we dress. She told me about these awesome light blue combat boots she fell in love with but didn't buy because she worried she would never actually get the courage to wear them for fear that they were too "out there" and they would get tossed next to the many other items purchased but hardly worn. I just realized that I had done that very thing in another store. Plus I can't count the number of times I have talked myself out of buying something because of this stupid thing called insecurity. I had JUST seen a shirt I looooved and the minute I held it up to see how it fit me I instantly starting doubting. Could I pull this off? Is it too young looking for me? Is it too out there? How silly! Yet I'm sure so many of you have done it too. It was then that I had a revelation. I told my friend that she needed to go find those boots (or something else she liked but feared she couldn't pull off). Buy them. And force herself to wear it as a declaration that she was no longer going to be controlled or changed by her insecurities.
And if your wondering if I went back to buy that shirt, I didn't. But not because I was too scared to, but because my hubby and I are on a spending freeze (We do this now and again if we really want to save quickly or just as a way to keep ourselves in check. I think it's healthy to not always get what you want right away). But I did find a photo to share with you! And you better believe when our spending freeze is over I will be going to get it!! And by then I am hoping it will be on sale as my little reward for delaying gratification!!
So what insecurities do you struggle with? I challenge you to step out in a tangible way and tell that insecurity where it can go!!
As a side note: I had my husband proof read this post before I publish it because I don't always pick up on my spelling mistakes. He sent me a text with a few corrections and this FYI at the end....
"Go buy that shirt now! It is hammer nice and fits your personality bang on!!!"
Haha! I absolutely love him!
